Friday, December 17, 2010

It is Perfect

When my boys were young Christmas was all about -perfect- The perfect tree, the perfect presents, the perfect family. I went as far as making them wait until I brushed their hair Christmas morning before they could open their presents. Perfect, perfect, perfect.

Sobriety has taught me that it is perfect, it is perfect just they way it is. This year especially. We have no money, and I hear the recession has even hit the North Pole...but we are making the best of it.

Gavin and I went shopping, are decorating the Christmas tree, then heading to the Winter Wonderland in our neighborhood. See perfect!


  1. I think it takes a great amount of maturity and strength to admit things are not perfect. And once you do, people around you start to let their breath out a little and admit that it isn't perfect for them either.

    Merry Christmas, friend!

  2. Hello? Anyone out there? I feel incredibly uncomfortable after reading the last few posts...hello? Anyone have anything to say?

  3. To Anonymous, What makes you feel so uncomfortable? I'd
    like to help if I can. Is it the fact that our lives are imperfect?
    When I walk our dog at night I love seeing the beautiful
    Christmas lights and the trees lit up in all the houses. You
    would think we lived on the perfect block in the perfect little
    town in a perfect world. But, we don't. In all the cute little
    houses are real people, with real problems. Some may be in a
    season of "close to perfect" but, it's just a season. More
    problems will come. And when they do, that is just a
    season too. Sometimes those seasons last longer but, there
    is still joy in everyday living. A surprise (brief) chat with a
    teenage son, how our dog goes in circles when you ask
    if he wants to go for a walk. The perfect hot dog, arriving
    safely somewhere, good health, friends and family, I could
    go on forever. I hope you know it's ok not to be perfect.
    In fact, it is absolutely essential to the human condition.
    We will have perfection in heaven. Maybe all you need is
    a little hope. And there is always hope. I wish you well.
    And please, let me know how I can help. With love.

  4. To 5:41

    Please give more information .. We hear eachother and I know we want only wellness for eachother. Your in my thougths and know you are not alone in this journey.