Sunday, September 5, 2010

"It gets better, I promise."

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  1. OK - someone needs to comment here! How was everyone's holiday? Mine was nice and calm, fortunately.

    Here's a topic to throw out there - how many of you NEVER had an OMG experience and still chose to stop drinking? You never hit rock bottom, never had a dui, no trouble with the law, no arrests, no accidents, etc. I am finding that it's hard to stay stopped when nothing absolutely horrible has happened even though I realize that, if I continue on this course, something bad will. I want to stop BEFORE the OMG experience but then I think if I HAD the OMG experience, it would be so much easier to stop.

    Thoughts? Anyone else in my shoes?

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  2. I think in a way everyone has had an OMG moment, even if you have never been arrested or in trouble in that way, didn't you ever just wake up in the morning after drinking and think, UGH, never again. Even just waking up with an nasty looking, yucky person in the bed next to you!!

    I haven't hit a really low bottom, I went in to AA at a High Bottom (I think that is what they call it). The only real problems I had was with my husband. Then I got sober and realized my life was a mess. I was a functioning alcoholic. I was pretty organized, mostly put together etc. Now my life is not perfect, but so MUCH better than when I was drinking.

    If you really want to her a bottom story I have one, I never want to slip and end up like my friend. She just left rehab, is living in a homeless shelter. She lost her job, she was a teacher, is losing her condo, and has no money. She called me on Saturday and she got into a one car accident on the highway. Leaned over to get a lighter and lost control. She hit a guard rail, thankfully no one else was involved. Called me for a ride, we picked her up. Her car that she still owes thousands on is totaled. She has no car insurance. She has at least 1 DUI, not sure if she got a second. Her family is very controlling and she doesn't know how to move forward, She is sober 41 days, hopefully she is still today. I'll take my high bottom any day. I pray some of you don't have to go that low. Also, back in June a co-worker of my husband was killed by a drunk driver, you wouldn't want that to be your low, he left behind a wife and 4 boys. Hope that helps a bit.

    I hope you don't have to reach your OMG situation. If you want to hear more, go to an open AA meeting and listen to the speakers who share, they have amazing life stories. They have overcome so much, they are sober and rebuilding their lives.

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  3. Gloria - I never had huge OMG moments either. I (thankfully) was never in trouble with the law, never arrested, no accidents etc. However, I was very worried about my health and knew I couldn't keep drinking for years on end with no repercussions. I was also really, really sick and tired of being sick and tired. I was sick of hangovers, sick of buying booze, sick of hiding my drinking, sick of feeling zero self-worth, and sick of knowing I was not being true to the person I knew I was meant to be. By the time I quit, it was just flat out TIME. I believed that even though I hadn't suffered any serious consequences yet - it was very likely only a matter of time before something bad happened with my health or otherwise. Also, when I was taking an addictions class, my professor (also a very experienced social worker/addictions counselor) made sure we understood that not everyone hits "rock bottom". For me, that was an epiphany and made me realize I could just indefinitely keep on going down the road I was on, OR I could do something about it and change my life.

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  4. Doggielover, thanks for answering my question about irritability yesterday. I feel better today and, much as I hate to say it, I think it's because my in-laws were visiting for the past few days and they left this morning. My mother-in-law is a nice person, but I just can't be around her for long.

    Sober Artist Girl, do you have more you can share about your addictions class? That sounds very interesting to me. Were there other epiphanies that your instructor helped you have?

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  5. Gloria - Lots of epiphanies. Taking those classes was one of the best things I ever did! I write about some of those topics on my blog which you can reach by clicking on my name if you're interested. I really don't want to expand too much here since this is Emily's blog and her space. Anyway, I learned a lot in those classes - about myself and my alcoholism. I always thought everything was unique to me and was surprised to learn us alcoholics are much more alike than different.

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