Sunday, August 15, 2010

Sobriety Sunday

"Once it [a spoken word] flies out, you can't catch it ." -Russian proverb

We've said many mean words. Our words most often hurt the people we love. We can never really take back those words. But we're learning now to speak with care. We know that words have a lot of power.

What do we say when we're angry? When we want something? When we're trying to be kind. Now think about this: people will remember our words. If we're honest and careful in our speech, people will respect us. But if we say things to fore our will , we may be sorry later.

Prayer for the day:
Higher Power, speak through me today.

Action of the day:
Today , I'll ask one question of the person I love the most: "How have my words hurt you in the past?" Then I'll talk to my sponsor about this.

Keep it Simple [Hazelden Meditations]

This is a great one for me. I don't know about you but I had a mean and sharp tongue when I was drinking. I still can today, but I try really hard not to hurt people with my words. It is a work in progress, but I'm happy to be sober and working on it today:)


  1. Did you remember what you said when you were drinking? My sister is very hateful when drinking and claims she doesn't say the things she says. This has been a bad week for her and her family. Nothing is getting through to her, so I thank you for this site. It gives me hope that some day it will.

  2. Emily, I am completely with you on the sharp tongue. I really don't want to ever be a mean person, but I know for sure I was one nasty _itch when I would get sloppy drunk. I would say cruel and hateful things that if I wasn't drinking I would have never said.

    Anonymous, it is so hard to tell someone who is an alcoholic anything about when they are drinking, it's like we tune you out on purpose. I know I did, I can't speak for her, but I have to say I have said some HORRIBLE things while drinking, and it's more about me and my insecurities. I did have times that I don't remember anything I have said, but that is no excuse to say you didn't say them. She is just in denial because it's to hard sometimes to look at what you have done drunk. I will keep her in my thoughts. DON'T excuse her behavior, it will just allow her to continue to deny it. Maybe because she can't remember it might help her to seek help. She may be having blackouts and not remember any of it. Just know the cruel things she is saying has nothing to do with you, it's her inner problems, your only trying to help. She is lucky to have you!!

  3. Anonymous....I personally, usually never remembered saying a lot of the things I said...or doing the things I husband would tell me the nasty, vile things that came out of my mouth the next day and I would honestly not believe him....well, one nite I was on a roll and he called his cellphone voicemail and recorded me so I could listen to it the next day...needless to say, he wasn't lying to me about what I was saying and it was really embarrasing and made me cry...but I still didn't quit drinking till several months later...Your sister is gonna have to hit her own bottom and when she's had enough of the insanity and unmanageability, maybe she'll get some much needed help...but she's gotta hit "her" bottom first...not anyone else's bottom. She is lucky to have such a loving, caring sister to support her!

    And you might try the cellphone voicemail thing...didn't work for me, but it may for her...just a thought.

  4. I don't agree that a person has to hit bottom. Sometimes they already realize they have a problem and need a lifeline tossed out to them. I have had no bottom and have found a wonderful lifeline -- another person through Emily's blog and also a website on line that does not believe in one size fits all.


  5. Thanks for all the comments. I know in my heart she doesn't mean them, and I do not let that be an excuse or I am not helping her! She doesn't like me too much at the moment.