Sunday, August 8, 2010

Sobriety Sunday

Anxiety, fear, anger, resentment... looking back theses were my normal everyday feelings. 'Oh and sick excitement. I didn't even realize that it wasn't normal to be resentful and angry at everyone. I had a problem with everyone I met. Now I see that I was the problem, but I didn't back then.

I'm looking at some things right now that I'm not loving about myself. I know the steps I am supposed to be taking to correct it, but I'm slacking on it. I'm scared I think. But what has been proven to me time and time again is my recovery work is always, always easier than I thought it would be once I have the courage to do it. So I guess this is my prayer for the day...

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change
the courage to change the things I can
and the wisdom to know the difference.


  1. What if you have a family member who has all the symptoms of an alcoholic but, doesn't drink. The bitterness, negativity,
    always putting others down, regardless of change that has
    happened in said others? This family member I speak of
    was raised in an alcoholic home. Her Dad was drunk most of
    the time. Going about the apartment in his underwear, yelling and getting the family evicted several times. I see how she'd
    be bitter about it but, she is acting out as if it is still going on
    and he's been dead for 50 years! Help!

  2. I am probably way off base here but I don't understand the "all the symptoms of an alcoholic"? I think we are all extremely unique and while one person may be bitter and negative, those traits aren't attributed to all alcoholics. For me, an alcoholic has a problem with alcohol. Anyone can be negative and bitter. Your family member's issues may have been caused by the environment of her childhood, but I would treat it as something totally separate from alcohol. Counseling may help if she is open to it. Just be encouraging and supportive, not judgmental or nagging. Sometimes it is what it is and you love them with all their faults.

    And I could be totally wrong about all of this! I am anxious to see other responses.

  3. There's an organization called Adult Children of Alcoholics. You might want to look into it and read some of their materials. It could help you to understand your family member better.