Saturday, July 10, 2010

Letting it Go

Always forgive your enemies - nothing annoys them so much.
--Oscar Wilde

According to a Japanese legend, two monks were walking down the road when they saw a finely dressed young woman standing before a large mud puddle. She explained that she had no way of crossing the water without ruining her clothes. Without saying a word, the first monk picked her up in his arms and lifted her safely across the obstacle.

A few hours later the second monk said in an accusatory tone, "How could you have picked up that lady? Don't you know that the rules strictly forbid us to touch a member of the opposite sex?" His friend smiled and then replied, "I put the woman down back at the puddle. Are you still carrying her?"

Like the second monk, many of us are still carrying old hurts, resentments, and lost opportunities that we picked up many mud puddles ago. As long as we remain stuck in the past, we cannot fully hear the inner voice, which speaks to us in the present. Thus, in order to tap our intuition, we need to release and heal our unfinished business.

By following the example of the first monk, we can put the past down and walk on. See your past experiences as teachings that have guided you to this present moment.  An endless array of opportunities and possibilities lie before you. Immerse yourself in this good, and the old hurts will have no place left to make their home.

You are reading from the book:

Listening to Your Inner Voice by Douglas Bloch

Listening to Your Inner Voice. Copyright 1991, by Douglas Bloch. All rights reserved. No portion of this publication may be reproduced in any manner without the written permission of Hazelden.

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  1. Emily, I really like this post. It means a lot to me. I think I should copy that statement and keep it close. We think our past defines us, but really we need to walk in the present. Sometimes I hear people hold on to their past and the "bad" things they have done. They are in so much pain. They let that consume them and it makes staying sober even that much harder. I have a friend from AA who can't shake her past and I see how it is influencing her present. She is not at peace with herself and it makes it hard for her to sick to the program. I think we all have a tendency to live in the past. We have to make a conscience effort to live for now and see the good person we are trying to be!

    Have a great day everyone!!

  2. R&R, Resenment & Regret.
    Recovery's arch enemies...

  3. This post touched me as well Em. There are a couple of big things that I have been battling with lately that are part of my past that I need to turn over to God, forgive myself & move on to the here & now. This story helped me to put some things into perspective....once again...You Rock!

  4. OMG! This is so hitting home. It is SO difficult putting things in the past; forgiving ourselves is so much more difficult than forgiving others. Why is that?

    That has been a constant struggle for me, getting better though a definite work in process. And Randy, you couldn't have said it better...the R&R is my nemesis which I have to be consciously aware of each and every day. Definitely takes work and tries to sabotage my recovery! But I am determined and with the help of my counselor and this site, this gal is gonna prevail!

    Have a great Sobriety Sunday and God Speed everyone!


  5. IowaJules - Love your comment & all your enthusiasm....YOU CAN DO THIS!!! Sobriety is oh so much better than the old drinking life....never thought I'd say that or write it in a zillion years, but it is so true that sometimes I wanna shout it from the rooftops!!!

  6. I like how that monk thinks!!