As you can tell from my last few entries I have been in pain and struggling, not really with drinking, but with life. In the beginning of my sobriety I would be in massive amounts of pain and then come out of it with a huge amount of knowledge and growth. That is happening to me now, but with life instead of drinking.
I have a new sense of calm, many things to reflect on, and some work to be done. That is okay with me today, because I know the reward is great. I am grateful that I have a solution, and getting drunk is no part of it. A wise person once told me "You can't think your way out of your feelings." another told me "Feelings aren't facts." Feeling your feelings is hard, but the fact I feel them today instead of numbing is a blessing.
Wow, I REALLY like "Feelings aren't facts."
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing your journey, even the hard parts.
{LOVE!}
jamee
Em - God tends not to display His power in the form of mighty physical acts; instead He works to change people’s lives.
ReplyDeleteIt is during those times when we feel most alone or oppressed that we need to keep praying, telling God about our troubles.
THE 4 BLESSED LOOKS
Look back and thank God.
Look forward and trust God.
Look around and serve God.
Look within and find God!
I hope this makes your day a bit brighter! And I agree with Jamee, it's comforting knowing that "feelings aren't facts".
Hugs - Annette
Great to hear... Now, when I get to a tough spot, alcohol is not even a second, third, or tenth thought as a solution. Thanks to paying attention in class, & keeping my ears & mind open, the next right thing is becoming more & more automatic.
ReplyDeleteThank you all...
Feelings are neither right or wrong they just are. The problem arises when we try to get other people to validate those feelings, especially ones that can do us harm.
ReplyDeleteSometime validation is very important, it is also important that it comes from a healthy person. I don't know about all of you, but I tend to hide my feelings, I have some good healthy friends who through love and kindness and yes a little validation get to to talk and work through my feelings. They are pretty hard on me sometimes and make me see my part, but sometimes they just say "Sorry honey, that sucks"
ReplyDeleteYeah, your right. I should have clarified for me it's when I "TRY" to get people to validate those feelings. Good healthy friends will validate without you even knowing it. I have more trouble with those "negative" feelings, such as tody. I went from anger to resentment to hurt, finally talked to hubby who also goes to school and finally am at peace.(along with a whole bunch of praying)
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