Saturday, December 12, 2009

A Night on the Town






I am going out with a group of friends tonight. Most of them drink, so this will be my first official time being the designated driver. The only deal is that sometimes I can't hang long with people that are drinking. Sometimes I can, but sometimes I can't and I never know how it's going to go. So I'm not sure I will make that good of a DD. I guess I will just drive the people home who are ready to go when I am, and the rest can cab it. I will share all about my night and post pictures later.

I am home sober, safe and sound. Will write all about it in the morning!

Good Morning! The last picture I posted is of the ceiling of the place we went. Crazy right!? Some of you may recognize it, yes it is "The Coach House" one of the oldest bars in Scottsdale. They really go all out for the holidays and so do their customers. There were people dressed up as Santa, Mrs Claus and elves. But what I remember the Coach House for is that it opens at 6:oo am, I went sometimes that early...now that's yuck!

So about my night, we got there around 7 and until about 9:30 I was having a great time chatting it up with friends. Then I noticed a switch in the environment, more people bumping into me, people starting to slur and so on. I thought my friends Becky and Tiffany are at their house watching a movie, maybe I will head over there. But I stuck it out. I did a little experiment to see how long it would take to get a cup of coffee or a glass of water, they were really quick about it, but didn't have a hot pot of coffee. I chatted with who I think was the manager and told him that it would be nice for sober people and designated drivers to have some coffee, I don't think he had ever looked at it that way and seemed open to it, nice guy!! So all in all it was a great night!

18 comments:

  1. Pictures are fine, believe me...but what I really look forward to is "How it Went" (Almost rhymes with "How it Works"!)

    Being a DD is good really...because nobody of your party will be pushing you to drink. They need you SOBER! Isn't THAT a great thought?

    On Day At A Time, girl. Good post, honest post!

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  2. Could make for an interesting evening. Can't wait to hear your take on it. It can be uncomfortable watching others deteriorate around you, but I try & use it as a reminder from where I came & usually go home feeling blessed & grateful. I'm sure you are up to the task. Consider it service work & a possible life saver. Hope to see you in class soon

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  3. I think your blog is followed by many who don't comment after being in People magazine. I thought I was the only Mom struggling. How can a person stop on their own? I live in a small community and have a reputable professional job, I don't want to go to AA. I can go a day without easy, maybe two. I used to only have one or two glasses of wine at night while making dinner after work, now it's 6 or 8. Advice?

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  4. This is in response to anonymous. You sound EXACTLY like me. I too have a problem with drinking wine while making dinner. Can drink a whole bottle. I also want to stop, but am reluctant to go to AA, mostly due to the fact that I don't want my family or friends to know that I have a problem. I really want to stop on my own. I think the trigger for me is the "making dinner time". It almost seems like once I start thinking about or begin to make dinner, I get the urge to have the wine. I am also a mom struggling. I could use some advice as well. I thought I was the only one with this problem. I am fine during the day, it is just the dinner hour thing.

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  5. Many peole who don't want to comment on here email me directly. The neat thing about AA is the second A stands for anonymous. Anyone you see in a meeting is there for the same reason you are and people take their anonymity very seriously. Feel free to email me directly if you have any more questions, Emily emilyism.com@gmail.com

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  6. To bad you girls don't live in the same town you could go together! Nobody needs to know if you go to a meeting it is a very personal thing, tell only the people you want to. And like I said everybody there is there for the same reason you are and they don't want it spread around that that they are there either. Em

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  7. I'm the first anonymous posting above. It's funny how relieved I felt to hear from anonymous #2. Maybe she and I could help each other electronically, with anonymous e-mail addresses? Maybe if she knew I was pulling for her and she was pulling for me, we could both stop. For me, too, the trigger is preparing dinner or thinking of it. My life is great, there's no reason for me to be drinking. But I saw the video of Emily being interviewed for a news report (posted on this blog) and when Emily said being bored is a common way to start, that is so true. Cooking dinner is so tedious and boring to me.

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  8. Dear anonymous's. I quit for a while before joining AA. There is a world of difference between quitting & surrendering. When you quit you are only a quitter, when you surrender you can begin healing & recovering. Please trust in the anonimity of the program. The outside world will accept you with open arms & you will see things differently as you begin your recovery...

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  9. I can't believe what I am reading. I have the same wine problem...I love coming come, cooking dinner while I am drinking wine. I can't go to AA either. I live in a small northern ontario (canada) town, have a reputable professional career. I would like wipsnide to explain more about surrendering. I haven't had a drink in 2 days...OK so far...but tomorrow when I come from work it won't be so easy. anonymous 3

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  10. Dear #3. I stayed out of meetings at first for the same reason. 1 question, What will happen to your reputation when your illness accelerates & it affects your career & family? It will accelerate & others will see it long before you will. You have expressed a concern about your drinking & a desire to stop. A good start to surrender & recovery. Maybe you could find a meeting a little farther away & see for yourself...

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  11. I think it is so cool that you guys are helping each other! I am going to write a post called "anonymous" It will be a place you can go and have an ongoing conversation with each other. By the end of my drinking I was hardly making dinner at all. The crappy thing about alcoholism is it always gets worse never better and with women it gets worse at a rapid rate:( Emily

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  12. Today is my 78th day sober. I am doing it on my own. I drink non-alcoholic wine and champagne. I am like the other posters - I live in a small town where everyone knows me and I would be uncomfortable going to a local AA meeting. I have been a drinker for 33 of my 49 years and am trying very hard to be sober.

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  13. Congradulations so far. I too quit for quite some time before attending meetings. I'm very glad I'm there now. It is a total package & life style change to help get sober & stay sober. Try not to fear the small town groups, or try to attend when you are out of town. Open mind & positive attitude does wonders & so will the meetings. Good luck to you...

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  14. Wipsnide, how long were you sober before you started attending classes and what made you feel like you needed to?

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  15. Drinking non alcoholic beverages is mental masterbastion. They still have alcohol in them and if you are a "real" alcoholic, the phenonomen of craving" will come as well as the obsession of the mind and you will pick up the hard stuff again. You do it one day at a time by abstaining.....

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  16. I know a few people with pretty decent sobriety that drink non-alcoholic beer. For myself I don't amymore. I had a bad reaction to food cooked in alcohol at about a year sober. I didn't even realize there was alcohol in the meal, it gave me an angry, dry drunk feeling. It actually scared the living hell out of me and now I'm really careful to not ingest anything with alcohol in it.

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  17. I guess I'm not a "real" alcoholic.

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  18. Me either, cause that never happened to me. Thank God I am as sure as shit that I am a "real" alcoholic. Some people can drink non-alcoholic beer and some can't, it is up to each person to decide if it's a slippery slope for them.

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