Thursday, December 17, 2009

It is None of your Business

In early sobriety I constantly bitched about these court appointed alcohol classes I had to take because of my DUI. I hated going, as far I was concerned I was doing what I was supposed to be doing without having to be told, and why should I have to go to classes with people still in denial. I don't know about you but most alcoholics I know don't like to be told what to do. I felt like I had to defend the program that was saving my life. After enough bitching someone came up to me and said "IT IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS WHAT PEOPLE THINK ABOUT YOU!", and yes that person did kind of yell it, but it worked, that one sentence changed my life. I was always worried what people thought about me and whether or not they liked me, now I try to remember that is none of my business. It is like what they say in "The Four Agreements" (great book by the way!) Don't take anything personally. What people do, or say or think, is a reflection of them and their realities, and has very little to do with you. I still worry about what people think about me, but it doesn't consume me like it used to. Thank God for the book "The Four Agreements" and that wise person!


  1. I always wanted to please everyone & wanted everyone to like me. I heard that phrase in class & it sounded so logical. Now all there is to do is to put it to use in the real world.
    Thanks for the book tip,it's on the list...

  2. Doggone it Emily, I thought I was commenting every day, so I checked back, and evidently I've been reading and not writing on your space here. My paranoiac mentality left me to think you were "rejecting". See? That's the way it USED to be.

    I was ALWAYS worried about what YOU thought about ME! Then someone told me that you (well, not "you" Emily -grin!) were too busy thinking about yourself to waste time thinking about me. So THERE. That ended THAT myth.

    But there's plenty more myths where THAT came from!

  3. Hey Em- picked up my one year chip tonight!!!!

  4. Go Girl!! It just keeps getting better and better from here! I am soooo happy for you! Em